Was Jordyn Woods Wrong?

Disclaimer: I cannot stand and absolutely couldn’t care less about the Kardashian/Jenner family, and further as a Sociologist and Social Worker I find them problematic on too many levels to list on this blog. Nevertheless, I digress.

Unless you’ve been under a rock…in the middle of the ocean…in Antarctica, you’ve likely heard something about the whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan Thompson/Khloe Kardashian [alleged] love triangle. But just in case you have taken up residence in the Arctic circle (or simply don’t care/have a lame social media feed) the story, from my understanding is as follows:

Jordyn (socialite and friend to Kardashian clan) goes to a club one night, then leaves said club to go to an after-party (as is LA custom) that “happened” to be at Tristan’s (husband and baby daddy of Khloe Kardashian; known serial cheater). The rumor mill had it that Tristan and Jordyn ended up having sex, and some even speculated that she was pregnant (among a billion other versions of the story). Per her interview on the Red Table Talk (Jada Smith & co’s Facebook Watch show), Jordyn alleges that her encounters with Tristan throughout the night were innocent but certain moments could have been misconstrued from the vantage point of someone looking for a story.

Whew!

Now to why we’re all here.

This whole story, regardless of if you think it’s a PR stunt or not, is a prime example of when two relational principles are violated: “Girl Code” and marital boundaries.

First, “Girl Code.”

Imagine you and your husband are having [longstanding] issues.  Things are already rough, he’s out here (as I like to say) thottin’ and boppin’; making a mockery of your relationship, and your play-sister/best-friend to your little sister goes to your husband’s house (which is already strange to me, but I digress again) and is hanging out with him until the wee hours of the morning.  To make matters worse, they seemed to have been so cozy that a whole entire scandal came of it.

Look, it’s bad enough she was there in the first place, but even Jordyn admitted that she made some questionable decisions that helped those looking for drama find it with very little effort.  I low-key believe nothing happened (I also don’t care if it did lol!), but for the sake of citing Rule #159 in the Girl Code, you don’t hang out with your best friend’s sister’s husband, PERIODT.  Especially not without the two aforementioned parties being present, at least.

One of my biggest efforts, personally, is that I strive to live in such a way that no one can speak ill of me by my own doing. I am intentional about making sure that the things I do cannot be misinterpreted because I was careless. Our friend Jordyn was not particularly concerned about that and placed herself in a compromising position due to lack of foresight (and she’s also like 21…so you know her prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed aka she’s doesn’t know how to think things through).

Marital boundaries
Let’s start with Jordyn again. She obviously doesn’t respect the Thompson-Kardashian marriage.  The fact that she was there tells me that.  My friend, I know you may have your various reasons for thinking it’s okay to hang out with someone else’s man because “we were friends first” or whatever, but I URGE you not to.  If you must, at the very least be open and honest with the other woman beforehand and even invite her if possible. 

Anything can happen and usually the truth isn’t the first thing on people’s minds.

Further, no matter how trash their marriage is, it’s still a marriage! Jordyn shouldn’t have been in a married man’s home partaking in his debauchery, let alone being drunk, sitting near his lap, and leaving his home in the early hours of the next morning. I guess my point is:

STOP HANGING OUT WITH MARRIED MEN ALONE IN 2019!!!

Now, Tristan CUH-LEER-LY doesn’t care about his marriage.  However, he was very much aware, I’m sure, of Jordyn’s relationship to the Kardashian family.  The idea that he [allegedly] kissed Jordyn as she left that morning is a sign of his blatant disregard of Jordyn’s reputation, but most of all his own marriage.  Her relationship to the Kardashians only throws salt on a wound that I’m sure was already there. Cheating always feels worse when it’s with someone you know.

All in all, I don’t agree with Khloe’s tweet that Jordyn is the cause of their marriage ending.  I dare say I think it’s near impossible for a marriage to end because of a third party.  Marriages end because one or both of the people in them make bad decisions and don’t invest in their marriages. That being said, Tristan may be the cause, or foundation of their marriage may be the cause, but I can ASSURE you that Jordyn is not the cause of the demise of their marriage.

To be honest, I believe Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith’s endorsement of her and her Red Table Talk appearance helped to save Jordyn’s image.  The Smith’s are Black America’s sweethearts. They could talk to me about the profound nature of dog poop and I’d believe it, so smart PR move on her part, but this situation was made so serious and childish at the same time that I honestly don’t know what to make of it as a whole.

What are your thoughts on this whole thing? Do you even care? Lol! Comment below I want to hear from you!!