A Lesson on Love from Kobe and GiGi

International Icon, basketball legend, father, and husband Kobe Bryant and his beautiful, talented daughter Gianna Maria-Onore or “Gigi,” passed away on Sunday along with 7 other passengers, including the pilot, 2 other young girls, and their parents. 

It felt like the world collectively held their breath in shock and despair.

He was 41. She was 13.

Both young and beloved, leaving behind family, friends, and fans reeling for answers amidst the incomprehensible.

How could….this….happen.

I’ve learned long ago to yield to the sovereignty of God, instead of attempting to understand, but honestly, for this one….I need answers.

I know your timelines, as well as mine, have been drenched with “cherish your loved ones” and “life is short,” but this time, it’s really settling in.

As a single woman, I’m finding myself frustrated with dating (and mind you, I’m not even DATING dating) and the “games” that I find myself engaged in to not seem too interested, or thirsty, but also not too nonchalant or distant.  I’ve held back as to not seem too eager about a man, while also being told I needed to open up. It’s all too much.

At the end of your life which do you think will matter more? How much you loved or how well you played the “game?” I doubt you’ll leave this world happier that you didn’t text first or tell that person you loved them exactly when you realized it. No, you will either feel immense love and gratitude for how you maximized the time with them…or regret at the chances you missed to love them better.

I feel this responsibility to approach love and people differently, to be less fearful and more bold both in love and in life, because at any moment, whether young or old, rich or poor, things can change.

Imagine how assured and settled Kobe and Gigi were in their love of one another, and the love of their family. When I leave this earth my desire is everyone I love is most confident that I loved them.

Let’s stop wasting time and live and love well.

How has Kobe’s passing impacted you? Have you ever lost someone you love and it changed your life perspective? Comment below I’d love to hear from you.